Parenting is never easy, and we all struggle in some ways. But I have to wonder if some techniques used by some new parents are not rather cruel and not worth the effort or reward. If you are a new parent, a little advice is in order.
Just take your child out for the day and spend time with them, instead of being over-busy schedule, I can see how the parenting skills of a parent can become limited. It is nice to be able to use some well-known techniques, as well as trying out some strategies of my own. But I believe that one must always be vigilant to what is happening around them and must be able to follow through with the ideas that are proven to work, or not work.
We must never allow our children to become adults without us being the adult, and also, the child cannot be the adult unless we are the child, which is one of the things that makes parenting so fun. Don’t let the nanny to watch your child. The nanny can usually only take a few minutes at a time, and also, can provide someone else who is around for a short while and has more control.
This is a good rule for the new parent to remember, and this has to do with the notion of control. I have been around many parents who seem to have little control over their children, and they don’t get to enjoy much of a good thing. I remember the many parents who were such terrible drivers, and I always told myself, “that was because of a lack of control”.
New parents must learn to establish their own level of control. Too many times, the new parents are being punished and are expected to comply with the parenting techniques of others. The simple fact is that if you are with your child 24 hours a day, you have to learn the tools to be a good parent.
Now I’m not saying that there isn’t a need for discipline in parenting, I’m just saying that if you are constantly pulled away from your child, you will be less successful as a parent. The most effective technique for parenting is not going to be to keep you away from your child, it’s going to be to give you time with your child. When you have time with your child, you have to make sure that you are not trying to force a certain behavior, and that you are allowing the child to control his or her own actions or else, you might end up punishing yourself more than your child.
Time with your child should be spent playing, reading to them, singing songs, and teaching them what to do and when to do it. This is the type of time that can really bring a person together, and bond them together as a family. If you spend all of your time doing things that they don’t want to do, you won’t get to spend as much time with them and will miss out on the bonding process that the best parents always enjoy.
Try not to over discipline your child. While this might be great for a person who is trying to parent and doesn’t have enough control, there are other situations where these same methods can be helpful. When you are faced with a situation where you feel as though your child is going to throw a temper tantrum, then you will know what is needed.
It is very common to run into the problem of parenting for the new parents, and they find themselves losing control with their children. This happens, but it isn’t common. Many people think that when they are younger, they have control, but the truth is that every person is different, and they have to work on that as they go along, and with the right parenting techniques.
Be present with your child all the time, no matter what, and don’t keep them at home longer than you have to. When I was young, it was necessary to sit my child down and get them to come to bed early, and they did this every night. But the reality is that there is no right time, and we can’t make everyone happy.
So whatever parenting techniques you have decided to use and regardless of how it is tried, you must practice it over and over again, so that it becomes part of your life. Parenting is an art, and is something that can be perfected, but only if you are willing to try.